Hamasah

Bismillah

I'm looking for someone who follows Qur'an and Sunnah according to the undestanding of the Salaf (salafi)

❌IMPORTANT
Before read more please consider this :
1. Who follow Qur'an and sunnah, if you are not, this is not for you
2. I have no interest in relathionship, if you are just curious not serious please leave me alone. I used this website to looking for partners. i want a baraka in marriage, If you observe every point of my bio and I agree with your bio as well, I can directly give you my wali number (my parents doesn't understand English insha'Allah I can help you translate that or you can translate them to Indonesian)


✅ABOUT ME
Let me introduce my self,
You can call me Riz, i'm 24 yo this year, I'm from indonesia (native Indonesia), i never married (single)

APPEARANCE
5'0.63 ft (153 cm), 51 kg (113 lbs), Alhamdulillah Allah give me dark brown skin, black eyes and black hair, I wear abaya and khimar, and if my husband want me to wear niqab (veil) insha'Allah that's not a problem for me and I would be happy

Are appearance important ? Important and not important, important when they can help you get closer to Allah and help you lower you gaze, it's not someone who must be handsome, beautiful or anything but someone that when you look at him/her you will find peace and pleasing to your eyes, so you have the right to reject me when you are not satisfied with my appearance insha'Allah that's not a problem for me

PERSONALITY
My friends often said that i'm a cheerful,simple, funny and humble girl, although i don't know myself. But I think I'm a calm, genuine and caring, It's hard for me to get angry, sometimes I can be a quiet too even though I like talking. I'm not perfect and never be, because Allah is. I have my flaw too, some people say that I'm good, but I'm not, that's because Allah cover my sins, that make me more human, I will make mistake too, but I'll learn to correct them with Allah help, so please don't expect much about me, as I'm just an ordinary Muslim woman that learn to get better

CAREER
For my future career I'll be honest, I just want to be a housewife, I want to learn more about Islam, memorizing Qur'an, attend Islamic course, I believe the best place for women is in their home, I want dedicated myself to my family and Islam, I like to do some small business If my husband allow

HOBBIES
I like reading, spend time in quietness, writing journal, do some design and editing, I love nature and cats, I try to minimize myself from listening music and leave watch movies. I do that in hope that Allah can protect my heart and eye from something haram

RELATIONSHIPS
Alhamdulillah, I have never been in a relathionship and have no interest with that. I'm not close to other man too, i don't follow other man in social media too, except from syeikh that from him i can learn Islam, Qur'an and hadist more. I try to lower my gaze from something haram insha'Allah, and I just believe in relationship after married

MARRIAGE
I like intimate wedding with just family and my friends

TIME
I want to get married as soon as possible to avoid fitnah, inshaa Allah. But not to eager, I trust Allah for his plan, because with marriage there are also responsibility, so choose wisely with which one do you want to spend your life later, and this one that calm my heart:

“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” [Quran 30:21]

PROBLEM
I think good communication is important in marriage, I'm quite hard to get angry, but when I get emotional I'll try to calm myself and think about the solution later, I often be quite and try to have a control to myself with Allah help, if I'm calm down, I'll have some discussion with my husband about that and try to get solution, when we have different opinion about something I will thinking that opinion from my husband view so that I can know if my opinion wrong and I believe my husband as a leader to get a solution from our discussion later

POLYGAMY
I know that Islam allow polygamy, but I'm afraid I can't do that, I'm afraid of my jealousy to get over me (although I know that's women nature), my family are not from a very religious family, and in Indonesia they are very rare here, I'll try to be obedient and dedicated myself to my husband and our family later so I hope at that time my husband can be patient about me


My view about polygamy ?

Honestly i don't want to argue with anyone about this issue, because it's already clear that islam allow polygamy and make it halal. What i want to write in here is the reason why i can't do polygamy. I always believe that every decision we make have a responsibilities, like when i decide to get married later, i must know the responsibilities that lies with them, so that polygamy. For me polygamy is the highest trial for woman, because as we all know, jealousy is woman nature, and i know how hard to control our jealousy, even though that woman have the highest iman, she will also feel sadness and jealous, and i'm afraid of myself that i can't control that, i know my iman and my capacity, i pray to Allah to guard my heart from anything that can hurt them or anything that can affect my iman. What i seek in marriage is peace and have the same goal in jannah, when i don't find them in marriage then What's the meaning of that, its very easy for Allah to turn around our heart that's why i'm afraid that something can affect my heart. What i'm afraid too is that when Allah will hold us accountable in the day of judgment, i'm afraid of my answer in that day, for me to much jealous and sadness can be disease of heart, i don't want to have any resenment (although maybe just a little) toward other, because i know that even though we try to be fair, heart will inclination towards one of them.

✅WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR
A practicing Muslim man that willing to apply Qur'an and Sunnah until the end of his life, responsible, kind and know the right and obligations in marriage, have orientation to Jannah and willing to guide me in Dunya and deen. I look up to someone that have a good deen and ahlaq (attitude and manner).

Age: under 30 insha'Allah, that's my mother request, single and never married

✅ I would expect him
-Doesn't share his or family picture or news in social media, as I like a private family and to protect us from evil eye and I don't share my pictures in any social media too
-Not seeking for fame (popularity) or wealth (what I mean here is not to put Dunya in our heart, because everything is Allah gift and it's easy for Allah to take them back) because that can make us arrogant, and forget that our destination is akhirah
-doesn't listen to music or movies drama and try to lower his gaze from something haram

If you do some of that, then to the extent that you do, you have less time for Islam and its adabs and it makes you a perfect match for others not me.



Ps:
1. Just because you have bad past when you are looking for spouse doesn't mean everyone are the same, so please respect someone when you decide to contact other
2. For me it's useless when you have a higher education (knowledge) but have a low manner (attitude), try to speak (write) something that if that send for you, you'll not get hurt because that word, when you have nothing good to say, please remaint silent, each time you write something, you are letting others know the state of your mind and what's in your heart, so be mindful of what's going on inside you, even if you have more knowledge than other, please try to have some manner
3. Please don't fall in love easily before nikah, so that we don't get hurt or disappointed by something in the process if Allah don't destined us to be together, you don't need to give your feelings when you're just communicate, please don't burden your mind and heart with love (like) that not at place, just keep them to your destined spouse later
4. I'm muslimah and I know my worth and my value, so please respect and I believe you are a Muslim so please know the boundaries established in islam between men and women. When you decide to contact me just said your purpose, please don't chat how are you ? Because I'm not here to chitchat, and you can see how serious I am
5. I'm fine with revert (new Muslim) or born muslim, as long as they strive to learn Islam and have goal for hereafter, insha'Allah I wouldn't mind someone past, but please don't tell me about that, don't tell me about your sin in the past just keep them between you and Allah, keep your sin a secret, that's enough for me.

If you decide to contact me then you must know that we grow up in different culture, environment and languages, and maybe the distance between our country quite far, and the cost of ticket when you decide to marry me, and other cost quite high, so please let me remind you and you can consider again, so that we are not waste our precious time


✅ If you see yourself match with my profile and want to get to know about me, then give me a list of questions that you want to know and insha'Allah give me time to answer them, I'll try to answer them with the truth about myself, and I'll do the same to give you my list of questions, let's be honest and respect eachother and Allah knows more anything about me and you (Always include Allah in every decision and process if we are meant to be then everything will be easier that's Allah guides and if we're not to be together that's Allah protection for us and we must accept them)

✅I'm sorry if I don't answer some of your messages, but I don't answer if I don't see a match between us, because I don't want to talk with anyone without necessity.

I hold witness to Allah that above information is correct to the best of my knowledge (May Allah forgive me and us insha'Allah)

May Allah make everything easier for us and May Allah grant us affiyah ameen